We get so distracted.
Pulled in a hundred directions.
So busy doing, fixing, managing, that we forget to pause and ask what actually matters.
The greatest illusion is that we think we have time.
We think there’s always later.
Later to rest. Later to begin. Later to live the life we imagine.
The beginning of a new year is always an invitation.
Not to rush into goals or to-do lists.
But to reflect.
What is it that you want?
If we don’t know what we want, we can’t really get going.
We stay stuck in reaction mode, responding to life instead of choosing how we want to live it.
I want to invite you into a simple practice.
Take a piece of paper.
In the middle, write the words: I want.
And then begin to write.
Freestyle.
No censoring. No fixing. No judging.
What is it that you want?
You might write things like:
– I want to feel stronger in my body.
– I want better sleep.
– I want my relationships to feel easier, more honest, more nourishing.
– I want slow mornings.
– I want to meditate.
– I want to be more hydrated.
– I want to feel emotionally regulated.
– I want a healthier, more resilient nervous system.
– I want to work towards a goal, physically, creatively, or in my career.
Let it be big and small.
Let it all belong.
Before you do this, I encourage you to step outside.
Look up at the sky.
Widen your gaze.
So often we sit at a desk thinking, I have to figure this out, and in doing so we shrink our perspective.
Instead, place yourself in a bigger, more imaginative space.
Ask from there:
What do I really want?
A few days ago, I was contacted by a friend.
A mutual friend of ours had passed away suddenly, and unexpected.
She was the first woman I ever held a Blessingway ceremony for, about eighteen years ago.
Our children were around the same age.
We stayed loosely in touch over the years, not very close, but connected.
She buys honey from me.
We see each other at our local gym.
We speak about what’s really happening in our lives.
The shock of her passing landed deeply.
And what struck me most was this:
We think we have time.
We think we’ll always get around to it.
We think we’ll live fully one day.
But that is the illusion.
So the real question becomes:
How do we stay with what matters?
As our days fill with caring for others.
Looking after our families.
Feeding ourselves and everyone else.
Managing the endless needs of life.
How do we stay focused on what truly matters?
And that is the invitation I’m offering you here.
To reflect.
To return to the question:
What do you want?
What do you want to do?
Who do you want to be?
How do you want to feel in this life?
In the next blog, I’ll share more about how we begin working with what we want. Reply now if you are keen, and I would love to know what you want for you.
How we break it down.
How we move from intention into lived experience.
For now, simply stay with the question.
Let it open you.
Let it guide you back to what matters.