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Remaining centred in trying times ✨

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Everyone is dealing with some aspect that is hard to accept or change. There are many aspects of our lives that are out of our control. I find that when I spend time and energy thinking about what is out of my control I can quickly feel overcome with helplessness and overwhelm. Having the awareness to catch your thoughts before you get to overwhelm is key. The aspects of our lives that are out of our control are; We are unable to control the weather, natural disasters, news, economy, what other people think of you etc The aspects we have control over; We are able to control our attitude and enthusiasm. Businesses that you start/have. Work you do in the world. What you read. What you buy. Where you live. What skills you learn. Places you travel. The last few months I have incorporated a centred exercise in my Confident Hypnobirthing Course to assist parents-to-be. What does being centred mean? How does it feel? Being able to be centred in your life is vital to manage your energy and well-being. It is our tendency as human beings to be scattered and fragmented: we multitask and are busy with too many tasks, thoughts and emotions. We have “to do” lists that seem to grow daily. All of these may cause us to lose our centre and our focus. Being centred is especially valuable when going through the transition of pregnancy, labour, birth and the ongoing demands of parenting. As this is a new role or experience we find ourselves in, we are often negatively influenced and swayed by others and our surroundings. It is important to cultivate our own centre that is aligned, internal, safe and unique. Being centred enables us to observe ourselves and our emotions as they arise within […]

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Make Space for Yourself

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We live in such a different time from when we were children. The world is fast changing; navigating our daily lives can be overwhelming and exhausting. Unless you have made space for yourself. Too often our own subconscious patterns come up without us realising it, especially with our children, our partner and those closest to us. These can often be painful and frustrating. It is important to have some sort of practice (time for you) that cultivates awareness, it can be meditation, yoga, mindfulness or prayer. It can be as little as 3 mins a day. I know I have spoken of this many times before. Why? Because it works and because it is so important. Another way to make time for yourself, is to look at how you are doing social media, it is part of our lives and our children\’s lives. We need to find ways to manage it and ourselves (more importantly). Here are some ways to do it differently and two links to articles, that I found useful. Give yourself a daily limit, and stick to it Follow people that uplift you Slow your scrolling Be present and learn something Get what to need and then log off Social media benefits and risks: children and teenagers 5 Reasons You Don\’t Need to Worry About Kids and Social Media

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Allow Spring to bring its bright light into those dark or stuck places

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As we move forward into Spring, with the days getting longer and more daylight hours available to us, it\’s a good time to search for what aspects or parts of yourself could do with more light. Parts of yourself could also mean the roles we play in life. We could liken ourselves to diamonds, each one unique, but, also, multi-faceted. By embracing all our our many facets, we smooth our experience of life. Are there places or parts inside of you that feel stuck, dark or closed off? Take some time to become aware of anything that may be stuck. Perhaps an old shoulder injury? Perhaps a dream you once had and have forgotten about, or put aside for some time? Are you aware of any place that feels dark or closed off? Take a few moments, while reading this to close your eyes and connect with your breath. Take three lovely breaths in and let go as you breathe out. DO IT NOW. Then, close your eyes and scan yourself, mind and body, what is the first part or aspect that comes up, become aware of it and then begin to imagine that you are breathing in sunlight to that part or aspect of yourself or your life. Keep breathing and imagining bright warm sunlight bringing in new, fresh, energy. Continue to bring more and more light into those places that feel stuck and dark until you feel called to stop. Once you are done, check in and feel if you feel different from before you did this exercise. If you do and it makes a difference to you do this for a few minutes every day. After a week check in again and see has this made a difference to you. I have attached a clip below from

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Navigating life and discovering what you want

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The end of July is a time when many of us feel we have turned a corner and its getting warmer and the sun is setting later, YAY! Soon it will be spring again which is a time for the new shoots and new flower buds. It is also a time when things literally grow more quickly and easily. So, what is stirring inside you? What have you been wanting to do? To go somewhere? To experience something new? New career? August is a perfect time to explore that so that when spring arrives in a few weeks you are ready to dive into the new! Some of you reading this are maybe thinking \’yay, YES!\’ Others are perhaps more hesitant for change. It’s about perceptive and looking with curiosity at what STOPS you? Without judgement or having to do anything just to look at what stops you? With kindness and awareness, get curious and interested. I am here for you if you discover something that is stopping you, you are welcome to book a session. I can work with you to see if it’s a fear, a belief system or a past experience. We will then deal with it with elegance and effectiveness, so that you are FREE to pursue what you want to do. Again, the question is, what do you want to do? What brings you joy? What makes your heart sing? We have only one life time with a limited number of years in this body. Life can be difficult, we have daily chores, children and families to care for, responsibilities and obligations that can be overwhelming. Coincidences and synchronicities may come flying at you from all directions and they may disappear altogether. How do we navigate our way with everything in this world? Here is

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Somehow, things work out

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Loss is something we don’t like to talk about or entertain, it can be uncomfortable and it’s painful. I like to keep my blogs and newsletter relevant and authentic, however, and in the last few weeks of June, I have journeyed alongside many women experiencing loss. I have supported, guided and held women in all forms of loss in the past. However, the last few weeks have felt more intense somehow, perhaps due to reflecting on my own losses that have not been fully dealt with. We have all experiences loss at one time or another, depending on the loss it can be disappointing, sore, uncomfortable, painful, heart breaking, or all of the above. What is the reason we experience loss? Why can I not conceive a baby on my own? Why did my baby not turn head down, and I had to have a caesarean birth I did not want? Why is my marriage not how I imagined it would be? Why was my baby born with something we never knew anything about, not able to test beforehand? Why did I experience a miscarriage? Why did I lose my baby? We are all unique and our experiences are unique, yet we can empathise with one another and get a sense of how that could feel and be for someone who has experienced any of the above. A few things I have learnt along the way that may be helpful if you are journeying through a loss yourself: Move towards the feeling you are experiencing, lean into it, be fully present to the emotions that are coming up within you. Often our initial response is to get away from it, change it think of something else, go eat something, not so? At first it is important to feel it, and

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Go within and slow down…

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This month as it gets even colder, is a time when nature is urging us to go within and to slow down. How do we do that when there are bills to pay, kids to care for and, and, and…? Even when you are busy you can make time to go within, making yourself a priority. Pause for a moment before you pick up your kid/s or once baby is asleep. Pause and take a few deep breathes to connect with your heart and yourself. Ask yourself \’how are you doing?\’ \’What do you need today?\’. By doing this small inquiry which only takes a few moments, you are slowing down and going within. Trust and listen to what comes up inside, however silly it may seem. As you go about your day, slow it down, life is not an emergency. When your baby is crying or toddler is having a tantrum and pre-teen or teenager slams their door. It\’s not an emergency, take a few deep breathes before you react, so you can slow down and respond appropriately. Life is NOT an emergency. The secret is in remembering this \’being in the moment\’, which takes practice. Be kind to yourself and those you love as you remember. Take time to look at nature, especially the trees as they let go of their leaves that they no longer need. What do you no longer need, what no longer serves your highest good? What is not in alignment of who you really are? For me I am taking time to let go of crafts and hobbies that no longer bring me joy and giving them to someone who can use the items. It feels good to let go for someone else to benefit. Letting go of emotions that no longer serve

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Celebrate the mother you are, a REAL mother.

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Mother, mom, ma, mama, mommy… it is a privilege to be called anyone of these, by one or more children. May is mother’s day month, when we as mother’s are celebrated. That is how I feel, it truly is a gift to be a mother to someone, to have been entrusted to care for, nurture, guide, support, love and encourage these little and big people. It is also the hardest role in the world, I think. It’s not a job, it is so so so much more than that. The phrase \”the good enough mother\” was coined by the British pediatrician and psychoanalyst D. W. Winnicott in his famous book \’Playing and Reality\’. Here are a few paraphrases from his valuable writing. Winnicotts \’good enough mother\’ is not a goddess, she is a gardener. She leans towards baby with love, patience, effort and care. Winnicotts picture of a good enough mother is that she is three dimensional human being. She is a mother under pressure and strain. She is full of ambivalence about being a mother. She is both selfless and self interested. She turns towards her child and away from her. She is capable of great dedication, yet she is prone to resentment. Winnicott even dares to say that a good enough mother loves her child but also has room to dislike her. She is not boundless, she is real. Real mothers are the best kind of mothers (& the only kind), it takes an imperfect mother to raise a child well. Children need to learn about life through real experiences and real people they need to respect the needs and limitations of other people including their mothers. If you have had a good enough mother, you are most fortunate. If you are a good enough mother, you are to be celebrated.

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Your Baby’s Experience of Birth

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What do you want your baby’s experience of pregnancy and birth to be? Here is a new perspective on life. “The first reason why birth is so important has to do with foundational experiences. The first things that happen to people are usually the most formative, simply because they are the first. Touch a hot stove once, and your attitude about stoves is altered for life. Birth is foundational because it is one of the first experiences where the fully developed body and primitive ego are challenged. Birth, like the foundation of a house, provides structure on which everything else is built. Without a foundation, there can be no structure. Birth and life are intimately connected. When people discover their birth patterns, it is common to hear them say, \’Why that’s the way I live my life. How I live my life is a direct reflection of what happened during my birth\’\” – Dr William Emerson, PhD Have you ever thought of your baby’s experience of their birth? Let us begin to explore, from the beginning, the beginning of your baby, depending on your beliefs, how you were raised yourself, and the life experiences you have had to this point. Did you know, your baby started as an egg when you were yourself an ovum in your mother’s womb? Jaap Van Der Wal, an embryologist in Foundations in Craniosacral Biodynamics, Volume Two by Franklyn Sills. When a woman becomes pregnant, there are often feelings about how life-changing it is for her and her partner/husband. It is magical and can be terrifying too, so much unknown. It is the most change an adult can experience from conception to their child’s first birthday. It is a time when you are able to update your belief systems, how you view the world, and

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