This week’s blog feels very personal.
I wanted to write about decision-making because I recently had to make a decision myself. After much reflection, I decided to postpone the Womb Wisdom Workshop.
Many women had expressed interest in joining, but for various reasons it wasn’t quite the right time. Some have little ones at home. Others have busy schedules, family commitments, or simply too much happening in this season of life.
As someone who is deeply passionate about sharing this work, it wasn’t an easy decision.
I truly believe every woman has a womb story.
Whether you have had children or not.
Whether your births were empowering or difficult.
Whether you have experienced pregnancy loss.
Whether you have struggled with painful periods, perimenopause, or challenges in your relationship with your mother.
Whether you are carrying stories from your lineage that are asking to be seen and healed.
This work matters.
It has helped me profoundly in my own life, and I know it has the potential to support many women. So rather than forcing the timing, I chose to trust that the right women will gather at the right time.
If you are interested in joining a future Womb Wisdom Workshop, please reach out. I have started a waiting list, and together we will find a date that works for those who feel called to this journey.
This experience reminded me of something important: Life is full of decisions. Some are small. Some are life-changing. And the way we learn to make decisions shapes the course of our lives.
Decision-making is a skill
Many of us were never taught how to make decisions.
We were told what to do, we were encouraged to seek approval, we learned to second-guess ourselves.
Yet decision-making is a skill that can be developed. It begins with self-reflection. With listening. With learning to trust ourselves. And it is a skill we can gently teach our children too.
Handing over the reins to our little people is a gradual process. It depends on their age, maturity, and the situations they encounter.
Every day, children make decisions.
What to wear.
What game to play.
Which book to read.
How to spend their free time.
These small choices become practice for the bigger decisions they will eventually face.
I often invite children to notice the decisions they already make each day. This helps them understand that decision-making is simply part of life. Some decisions are straightforward.
If you’re cold, you put on a jersey.
If you’d like a story, you choose a book that interests you.
But not every decision is that clear.
Sometimes we need to choose between two activities we both enjoy. Sometimes we need to decide whether to speak up about something that is bothering us or whether to let it go. Sometimes we need to navigate a disagreement with a friend.
These moments teach our children that decision-making isn’t always about finding a perfect answer. It’s about learning to consider options, listen to ourselves, and move forward with confidence.
A Simple Process for Making Decisions
Over the years I have drawn on many tools, including NLP techniques, to help me make decisions.
Feel free to adapt this process for yourself or your children.
Step 1: Remember Your Track Record
Before making a decision, remind yourself of all the decisions you have already made in your life.
You have navigated countless choices to get to where you are today.
Trust that you are capable.
Step 2: Define the Problem
What is the decision you need to make?
Write it down.
Clarity begins when we name what is actually in front of us.
Step 3: Brainstorm Possible Solutions
Think of at least three or four possible solutions.
More if you can.
Don’t judge them.
Don’t evaluate them.
Simply allow your creative mind to generate options.
Write them all down.
Step 4: Explore the Outcomes
For each possible solution, write down the potential positives and negatives.
What might happen if you choose this option?
What could be the benefits?
What could be the challenges?
Step 5: Identify What Matters Most
Ask yourself:
What is most important to me once this decision is made?
How do I want to feel?
What outcome matters most?
Step 6: Choose the Option That Aligns
Look back at your list.
Which option best supports what is most important to you?
Which one aligns with your values, your needs, and the outcome you desire?
Step 7: Imagine It
Close your eyes.
Imagine choosing that option.
Notice what it looks like.
What it sounds like.
What it feels like.
Does it feel aligned?
Does your body soften?
Do you feel relief, excitement, peace, or expansion?
If yes, you may have found your answer.
If not, return to your options and explore another possibility.
Trusting ourselves
One of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves and our children is the ability to trust our inner wisdom.
Decision-making is not about getting everything right.
It is about approaching life with curiosity, resilience, and confidence.
It is about learning from our choices.
It is about understanding that every decision teaches us something. And sometimes the right decision is simply the one that honours the season we are in.
That was certainly true for me with the Womb Wisdom Workshop, the workshop will happen, the women will gather, and the wisdom will be shared.
Just not quite yet.
And that feels like exactly the right decision.
Theoni