loss

Loss is something we don’t like to talk about or entertain, it can be uncomfortable and it’s painful. I like to keep my blogs and newsletter relevant and authentic, however, and in the last few weeks of June, I have journeyed alongside many women experiencing loss. I have supported, guided and held women in all forms of loss in the past. However, the last few weeks have felt more intense somehow, perhaps due to reflecting on my own losses that have not been fully dealt with. We have all experiences loss at one time or another, depending on the loss it can be disappointing, sore, uncomfortable, painful, heart breaking, or all of the above. What is the reason we experience loss? Why can I not conceive a baby on my own? Why did my baby not turn head down, and I had to have a caesarean birth I did not want? Why is my marriage not how I imagined it would be? Why was my baby born with something we never knew anything about, not able to test beforehand? Why did I experience a miscarriage? Why did I lose my baby? We are all unique and our experiences are unique, yet we can empathise with one another and get a sense of how that could feel and be for someone who has experienced any of the above. A few things I have learnt along the way that may be helpful if you are journeying through a loss yourself: Move towards the feeling you are experiencing, lean into it, be fully present to the emotions that are coming up within you. Often our initial response is to get away from it, change it think of something else, go eat something, not so? At first it is important to feel it, and