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Why a doula is for everyone

In the realm of childbirth, the presence of a doula is akin to a guiding light, offering unwavering support, knowledge, and empowerment to expecting individuals and their families. While the concept of a doula may be unfamiliar to some, its significance in the birthing journey cannot be overstated. From emotional guidance to practical assistance, doulas play a multifaceted role in ensuring a positive birthing experience for all. Understanding the Role of a Doula At its core, a doula is a trained professional, often a non-medical woman, dedicated to providing comprehensive support to women and their partners throughout the childbirth process. Armed with expertise in pregnancy, labour, birth, and the postpartum period, doulas offer a holistic approach to birthing support. Types of Doulas Doulas come in various forms, each specializing in different phases of the birthing journey. Birth doulas establish connections with an expecting woman and her partner during pregnancy, offering continuous support during labour and birth, and providing postpartum guidance in the weeks following delivery. Postpartum doulas step in after the baby arrives home, providing support with breastfeeding, organizational tasks, meal preparation, and offering valuable information on newborn care and maternal healing, both physically and emotionally. Bereavement doulas offer compassionate support to women and their partners navigating pregnancy loss, guiding them through the grieving process with empathy and understanding. Full-spectrum doulas offer comprehensive support from preconception to years after childbirth, ensuring continuity of care throughout the entirereproductive journey. The Doula’s Impact Beyond practical assistance, a doula’s presence provides emotional fortitude, serving as unwavering pillars of support during the highs and lows of your childbirth journey. Empowering them to make informed decisions about their care, so that a woman and her partner know what they want and how to ensure their requests are respected and honoured. Unlike healthcare providers juggling multiple

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Take a breath girl! Half way through the year? And no more excuses.

Some days I get up in the morning and have to remind myself that we are living in and participating in a changed world. What is actually happening in the world today? Everyone has an opinion, a theory, and a what-if. The truth is we don’t know, and we may know in time to come, perhaps years to come. For now, we need to breathe and stay in the present moment, dealing with what comes up as it comes up. It really is an opportunity to be fully present. For yourself as a woman, partner, mother, sister, what keeps you calm, centered, and present. What small ways can you remind yourself to be calm? For yourself and especially the children in your midst. When we are around the children, it is important to know how to regulate yourself. Children push our buttons, they know which ones to press, sometimes more so than our partners. One way that helps me to keep calm and to regulate myself is the breath. Reminding myself at the moment when I want to lash out, correct, defend, etc. I bring my awareness to my breath and remind myself it is not an emergency. I don’t have the awareness every time, get it caught in the reactivity of the situation. Then I remind myself to be kind to myself and that I am doing my best at this moment. What can we control? do we know what we can’t? The current world situation, the weather, what others think, mostly the things out there. What are controllable’s? Ourselves, how much effort we put in, maintaining an attitude that selves as well, how much time we spend on social media, how much sleep we get, and what food you eat. It’s July and halfway through this year, I

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Learning to be agile and steady at the same time

While this time is teac being in the world, something critical for me has been about learning to be agile and to realise that everything is changing all the time. The moon changes every day – every 28 days it has grown to its fullest and then let\’s go to its fullest. The earth is moving under our feet right now, adjusting and rearranging. Learning to be agile and steady at the same time is essential for all of us as we continue to live in uncertainty. It is what is so importantly needed at this time. Agility is the ability to change direction, to be flexible in our thoughts and reactions, and to think quickly and clearly. For me, it also about being able to let go of how you thought it was going to be, and embracing what is right now. Letting go is a learnt experience; holding on is in our innate nature. Letting go comes when we have done everything we can. Look at what it is that you can actually control. You can control how you feel, what you believe, what effort you put into something you want; your behaviour, your choices, the words you use; whether you choose to exercise or not, get enough sleep or not, or reach out for support. What are we certain of? That there is gravity. That the sun rises in the east and sets in the west. And that we all have limitations. It seems fitting that the 8th of June is World Ocean Day – another profound example in the world of how we can hold, and then let go, like the tides. Halfway through this unanticipated and unpredictable year, in the month that holds our shortest day in the southern hemisphere, being able to balance and

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Remaining steady in uncertain times

On 10 May we will celebrate Mother’s Day – a day meant to shine a light on and express gratitude for the enormous and beautiful role that mothers – biological or otherwise – play in the wellbeing of us all. May is also a month dedicated to Maternal Mental Health and recognises International Midwives’ Day on the 5th, and International Nurses Day on the 12th. For me, what links these together is the notion of care – for others, our families, as well as care for ourselves. And the need and openness for each of us to both offer and receive care when required. Post-natal depression (PND) is real and prevalent, and it varies from woman to woman. The 9-12 months after birth are as critical for the health of both baby and mother as the period of pregnancy and birth. Support during this time is vital to enable a space where mother and baby can really connect and find themselves in their developing dance with one another. And strength for you as a mother does not only mean your ability and tenacity to do and be everything for your baby and your family, but it also means asking for – and accepting – help and holding when you need it. Now more than ever we need to remain steady and centered within ourselves, as women and as mothers. As the world has and will continue to change, we need to embrace the change and pivot ourselves to what and where we are needed. As mothers, we attend to so much. It is who we are. So start to acknowledge and celebrate yourself – you are doing an amazing job right now! There are so many things you’re required to complete, for work, child/ren, and partner to tend to, and

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Health in the time of COVID-19

Not ironically, but certainly with the sense of the universe giving us a wise, if forceful, elbow bump, April is Health Awareness Month, with World Health Day on the 7th. It is also International Mother Earth Day on April 22nd. In this time of deep uncertainty, what constitutes health? The world has changed, and it will never be what it was before this. We’re not yet one week into lockdown as part of a worldwide attempt to protect the health of as many people as possible from the physical impact of the virus. But I’m sure that most of us are already realising acutely that health is not just confined to our physical being. Our sense of wellbeing is also strongly determined by our emotional health. And it is also impacted by the mental and physical health of all those around us, or those connected to us. If there is a term that seems to capture where we are at in the world right now – individually and collectively – it is our connectedness. While we speak about the global village, and share our experiences of living in the world via technologies that enable us to connect and communicate across the globe, the shock realisation of Covid-19, but also its potential value is the understanding that our connectedness is incredibly intimate at some levels. That human touch, proximity, interaction, shared space, routine, travel – i.e. connectedness – have made this a crisis that is not just about our individual health, but about collective wellbeing. What it reveals to us as individuals is our impact on one another – on the health and wellbeing of each other. And that the nature of our health, at all levels, extends beyond ourselves – into our families, our friendship circles, our communities, our environment,

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The human rights of babies & mothers

And just like that, we’re in March, already! There’s already a shift happening in the weather; another season starting to transition. Those of us with children are watching them grow up in front of us faster than we ever imagined. Those of us with growing baby bumps are watching our bodies grow and change constantly. And although we can’t slow any of this down, we can draw out some of these moments to last a little longer by making them more real: by bringing our awareness and consciousness into how we experience these extraordinary, ever-changing movements in our lives, and of everything around us. It’s Human Rights Day this month, on the 21st March. It’s also World Doula Week from the 21st-28th March. Two markers on a calendar of dozens of other entirely random, and sometimes poignant dates that draw our attention to mark historical events, or to celebrate or acknowledge others for their meaning. Both speak loudly and urgently to me at this particular moment in the world, where we are so in need of greater humanity, and the healing that acts of humanity have the potential to bring. And, while this is something we want for all those we care about – for the children we’re about to bring into the world, and for the children and families that we’re already raising and nurturing, humanity is what we want to experience for and towards ourselves too. As a doula and birthkeeper, and as a mom, and a woman, I am part of a groundswell of thousands of other women around the world advocating for the human rights of pregnant women. For their access to humane and dignified healthcare; for their physical and emotional support before and after they birth; for their right to feel safe in the spaces

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Love Begins At Home

\”Love begins at home, and it is not how much we do… but how much love we put in that action.\” – Mother Teresa February has been, and probably always will be, associated with love. Whether you celebrate it or not, Valentines Day is difficult to ignore with it\’s commercial presence. If you are pregnant or have children use this time to look at how you care for yourself this month. And, how you care for your unborn baby and/or children. Care can take many shapes… nutrition, exercise, meditation. What can you add to your life that will add value and not noise? Noise is all the ‘stuff’ that is a waste of your time – precious time, valuable energy and it takes away from doing what you really want to be doing. Being on your screen, watching TV, worrying about what could happen, creating anxiety, been concerned with what other people think of you, having too many things to do. What is the noise in your life at the moment? It can change, you have the ability to change it. Make time for you to find out what do you really want to be doing with your time and your life. Find someone who can guide you and shed light on what stands in your way. I am available to any women who are wanting to do their life differently, with more awareness, presence and less noise. Nurturing starts with how we are nurturing yourself, children learn for what they see and what they experience not from what they are told with verbal instruction. We need to be what we want our children to be, without the guilt and shame. Doing our best on any given day. Remembering that our best is different every day, depending on how much

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Creating Lasting Change

“To simplify means to eliminate the unnecessary so that the necessary may speak” With the new year comes new opportunities and a new way to see the world and your life! It is a new year and a new month, but that is all that changes… YOU are the ingredient to create a different experience of your life, when YOU choose to. Nothing will change if you are running the same patterns, belief systems and habits. When you take time to reflect (that is what end of December is for, for me), to reflect and look back on 2019, asking yourself; what did I enjoy? What do I want more of? What do I still want to do/achieve? What are the relationships/habits etc that I am wanting to do differently? What do I start with? What is in my awareness calling me to do it differently? Perhaps you want to be healthier? We need to look at what am I eating? Am I exercising? Do I take time to meditate/prayer? And then come up with what do I need to do to make this the easiest and most effective way to succeed? Perhaps creating a meal plan for the week, that way you know what to buy (less waste) and it take the stress out of what to eat for dinner. I have included a sheet for you that you can print and fill in Month, dates and write in lunch and dinner for the week or the month. I haven’t done a breakfast section as we all eat something different and at different times in our home. I trust that this will spark you to do it differently and take one thing that stresses you and organise it, the key is to DO it, to be consistent, be aware

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End of the year, end of a decade – Time to reflect, intend and create.

As we enter the last few weeks of 2019, take some time to reflect on this last year and all that has happened, changed and that you have learned. Make space to reflect on this decade too, what were the gifts and opportunities, that you have experienced or that you still want to create? As the Chinese saying goes, “we live in interesting times”. Expecting life to be better or easier, is a human illusion, along with linear time, like the calendar. Rather focus on your strength and courage to weather whatever unfolds for the next decade to come. During this end of year time, making time to make memories with your families and friends with whatever you are planning or allow them to spontaneously unfold. Managing your energy at this time is essential. Ask yourself what replenishes me? What can I do or not do to ensure rest and replenishment? Often we need to even say ‘no’ to things that we want to do as we only have a limited amount of time and energy available. The end of year is also about celebrating and sharing and giving, so here is an opportunity. I would love to see each of you ☺ Celebrate with me on 10th December at 1230 at Ishta yoga studio, everyone is welcome. Please contribute with a small plate of eats. Anyone wanting to donate clothes, toys, nappies, etc can bring them to this event, I will drop off at Princess Alice Adoption house on the 17th December 2019. Whatever you do or don’t do, enjoy it and say YES to you, First! My practice will only be closed between Christmas and new year, I am available for you to book for kahuna massage, craniosacral therapy, NLP, and individual Confident Hypnobirthing preparations for birth.

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